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Pregnancy Brain

Posted on February 22, 2012 by Emma

I spent a lot of time during my pregnancies wondering where my brain had gone! Thinking I’d like it back please. I need it. Baby brain is a known side effect of pregnancy that effects many mums to be! I’m not actually sure if it’s purely pregnancy related, more about the lack of sleep, mind numbing exhaustion, hormones or just having much more on your mind during pregnancy. Non the less it was something that I fell victim too!

Purple Forget Me Not Flowers With my first pregnancy I worked shifts, which often lead to bizarre sleeping patterns due to working until 2am having a day off and then starting at 6am the following day, not easy at the best of times but when you’re pregnant and need to sleep more it felt practically impossible to catch up on my sleep, because I was using the toilet at least four times a night, and no matter how many pillows I shove under my bump or between my legs, I still couldn’t get comfy. Not to mention the flaring up of my heartburn when I lay down or the inability to stay cool at night. I had all this with my second pregnancy but in addition (and I’m guessing any future pregnancies) a lie in was now 7.30am at the latest – not only because I now had a regular job but with a small child in the house lie ins tend to be a thing of the past! Add this to a bizarre need to scrub the house top to bottom, and washing every single item of baby clothing and bedding in the house repeatedly (just incase) then its not surprising that we get so tired.

Research looking at the affect of pregnancy on memory and other cognitive abilities is limited, and the findings are inconsistent. Some studies have found evidence of verbal and memory deficits during pregnancy. But there are variations in the types of problems the women encountered while other research has shown that pregnant women actually do just as well in cognitive tests as women who aren’t pregnant. Could it be that we just expect to be forgetful and maybe pay less attention to what we are doing? Pregnant women may also shift their focus away from less important issues to help them prepare for the birth of their new baby, are we just too so focussed on our babies that everything else takes a back seat?

No matter what, the combination of being totally exhausted and pregnant resulted in me taking the home phone in my handbag to work with me one morning leaving my mobile at home. Putting washing powder in the fridge and milk in the washing machine (was trying to multi task) and putting orange juice in my cup of tea (not nice – trust me). I am sure there are many more that I have forgotten but doubtless I could easily be reminded of they are not major issues and I can laugh about it now (I cried at the time).

So whether Baby Brain is a myth or not I was certainly a victim of it! Hopefully next time I won’t be as bad. I wonder what strange things it has lead others to do?

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20 Week Scan – Boy or Girl?

Posted on February 12, 2012 by Emma

Going for your 20 week scan is an exciting milestone. Officially halfway through your pregnancy and doubtless you can feel your baby moving around now. Of course, more than anything you want to make sure that the baby is growing properly, but your 20 week scan is also an opportunity to discover the sex if you so desire.

Boy or Girl Before becoming pregnant, I had always been adamant that I would never want to know. Which is bizarre really as I am one of the most impatient people I know, and surprises drive me mad! I like to be prepared and be able to plan but despite this had always dreamt that the baby’s sex would be unknown to me until after the birth.

But after my 12 week scan I became desperate to know. I wanted to start buying clothes, nursery equipment and lovely bedroom decorations. I also wanted to know who was inside me and get even more excited about it! The temptation was too hard to resist. Also it’s a good job I did find out as I had a strong feeling of the sex of my baby both times – it also turns out I was wrong both times!!

This is purely down to individual choice, a lot of people say it ruins the surprise – it would be more of a surprise if they got it wrong!! I still like the idea of having a surprise and waiting until the birth and hope to do so if I’m lucky enough to have another baby, just need to find a huge amount of willpower from somewhere! For the record though, I don’t think finding out makes any difference to how wonderful it will be seeing your baby for the first time. Growing and giving birth to your baby incredible on its own and surely knowing what sex it is doesn’t take anything away from it?!

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Pregnancy Facts & Figures

Posted on February 2, 2012 by Emma

After ending on quite a serious note for my last post, I’ve scoured the world wide web looking for interesting facts about Pregnancy to entertain you. Keeping it lighthearted again today!

The number of cesarean births has risen to 27% over the last decade. That’s an increase of 40%.
The average age for a first time mother is 25-29. It used to be 21 in 1970!
It also is true that the number of women between the ages of 35-39 is higher than ever, and growing. Also the number of women who are having babies between the ages of 40-44 is also on the rise, and this it seems is largely due the advances which have been made in fertility treatment.
10% of births are inductions. – Impatient aren’t they!
The number of multiple births has quadrupled over the past 20 years. – Maybe due to increase used of fertility treatments
The world’s first test tube twins were Stephen and Amanda Mays. They were born June 5, 1981.
The average woman’s uterus expands up to five hundred times its normal size during pregnancy. It only takes 6-8 weeks for it to return to its original size. – I was amazed to read this never realised it was so much!
May babies are on average 7 ounces heavier than babies born in other months. – Is this because we eat more at Christmas, and Easter? Not forgetting Pancake day!
When a women is pregnant, her senses are all heightened. – Yep I had a heightened sense of smell to things that made me sick!
Your feet may grow 1-2 sizes during each pregnancy. – Not sure mine did.
Babies play with their umbilical cord in the womb. They also suck their thumb, cry, and dream! – How cute!
Your first pregnancy tends to be longer than subsequent ones. – Mine was by 3 days.
Boy babies outnumber girl babies, This ratio has stayed the same though over the last 6 decades.
Tuesday is the most popular day for babies making their arrival in the world, with Saturday being the least busiest day of the week. This is more than likely because most doctors do not schedule c-sections for Saturdays. – I had mine on Sunday & Wednesday.
More babies are born during the hottest time of the year, with the late summer months of July-September being the most popular. Well 9 months earlier, when the weather is colder people are spending more time indoors where it is warmer with their loved ones. – My 2 are summer babies.
The number of babies which are being born prematurely has risen. This is because of the rise in twin births and in the increase in scheduled caesarean births.

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Pregnancy Worries

Posted on January 31, 2012 by Emma

If you are a pregnant mother or soon will be, this an important reality you may face. You may get stressed and worried. Why? The physical and mental changes (not forgetting the hormones) of a pregnant woman can affect her stress levels-especially as you know start to look at yourself as a mother. Even the woman who was a oozing with confidence and with her model figure, was never short of admirers may feel sluggish, chubby unsure of herself seemingly overnight. In her mind, she sees herself as ugly and dumpy, even though others just see her beautiful motherly glow.

Common Worries Among Pregnant Women

1. Pregnant women face an almost endless list of concerns-some valid and others not so. One of the most common worries is that of miscarriage, which is a big fear for women in their first trimester, especially if they have experienced past miscarriages or problem pregnancies. Miscarriage can be heartbreaking, an can be an event for which many women blame themselves. I did with my miscarriages, as I’m sure do many others. Constantly asking myself – Is it something I did? If I had done anything differently, would my baby have lived? I couldn’t help it I felt responsible for the loss of my babies, feeling like a failure having a baby is supposed to be one of the most natural things in the world but so it was obviously my fault right?Anyone who has experienced this how horrible a loss is, and in most cases the Mum is not to blame no matter what she may think.

2. Women also naturally worry if their babies will be healthy, so they fret over whether or not they are eating the right foods, taking the right vitamins and getting enough exercise. We are no longer caring for ourselves but have the responsibility of growing a human!! The worry can sometimes take over everything from whether or not this cheese could be as bad for you as Anthrax (slight exaggeration maybe) to how long she should wait to take her vitamin after lunch. As many silly worries as you may have, they can be valid issues of concern. They affect some women to greater degrees than others. I consider myself a generally laid back kinda person but I seriously did my share of worrying in pregnancy I was borderline neurotic at times!

3. It isn’t rare for expecting moms to ask themselves, “Will I love my baby enough?” and “Will I know what to do when my baby cries or gets sick?” The answer is yes, or it will be after a little experience. But, like most things in life you’ll pick it up quickly – I had barely even held another baby before having my first! When you start a new career with no guide book, it can be very intimidating and parenting is just the same.

4. Other issues that creep up include finances and daycare. Most mothers take a maternity leave from work after their babies are born, staying at home is not to everyones liking and some people aren’t financially able to leave work to be a SAHM (I couldn’t with my first, but could with my second) and finding the right daycare where your baby will be happy and where you will feel reassured in leaving your little one can be a massive challenge.

Of course, these issues are just a few worries that pregnant women may face. Naturally, every woman has her own specific circumstances that make some of these concerns less important, while others are more so. There are also concerns each woman has that are unique to her. In extreme situations, these stresses can lead into depression. Women feeling overwhelming and/or debilitating feelings of sadness or hopelessness should consult an their Midwife / OBGYN or a counsellor ASAP. We all get down at times and some of us may need a little help.

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Why Do We Put So Much Pressure On Each Other?

Posted on January 28, 2012 by Emma

Whilst being pregnant I was faced with an overwhelming amount of information to process due to reading so many books and magazines. I found myself getting very annoyed by some of the things I was reading (and stupidly this did not stop me from doing so).

Birth Plan While it’s great to have some idea of what sort of mum you want to be, and what type of birth you’d like to have, I think it is totally ridiculous to speak about something with such conviction when may have never even done it before! Surely you’re just setting yourself up for a huge fall? Whilst some people are lucky enough for things to turn out just the way they planned, for most of us that is not the reality. Your birth may have complications, you may not have time to use real nappies all the time, and you may struggle with breastfeeding and you won’t be the only ones to do so.

I didn’t realise how many horrible pressures women put on each other during pregnancy, being so judgemental of each other seemed to be very common placed. My approach to my pregnancies, and births, was to take it how it comes. Try to remain open-minded and seek the advice of professionals who have more experience than random people who you don’t even know. I never even wrote a birth plan either time! I had complications with my first so didn’t see the point in writing one for my second. I had a rough idea of what I wanted but was willing to adapt if needed.

The epidural debate is another thing that gets on my nerves! Shouldn’t we be supporting each other and not competing for the toughest mummy award? (there isn’t one by the – I checked). I realise that some feel strongly that childbirth is the most natural thing in the world and that women have been doing it unassisted for hundreds of years…but lets face it – it hurts – a lot – and medicine has evolved since then and there are other options available now. Everyone has a different pain threshold (the midwife when I was having my second was shocked at how calm I was – she said she was climbing the walls at 7cm – thank you Tens Machine!!), some labours are only an hour or 2 long some are much more (i’m in the second category with both of mine), every single birth is different so why should we put such pressure on each other for them all to be the same? If you feel like the pain is too unbearable, then have an epidural or whatever it is you need. I hate the horrible stigma that opting for one somehow suggests that you are not as worthy as the mummy next to you who is fine with just breathing through the pain. I say this as a mummy who didn’t have an epidural – I will not judge you if you do, and nor should anyone else. The help is there for you if you need it – why make yourself suffer because of the opinions of others?

People must realise that unexpected things often happen during childbirth (i know this from personal experience). Sadly it doesn’t always go to plan and having an open mind would be a huge advantage at these times. If things don’t go to plan and you need any kind of assistance it doesn’t make you a failure. But having said that I still hope that everything goes to plan and you get the birth that you want. Whilst I respect that everyone is entitled to their own opinions / beliefs, we also entitled to our own – and I don’t think we should be ignoring them.

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12 Weeks Pregnant – Ultrasound.

Posted on January 25, 2012 by Emma

When you get to 12 weeks you’ll be glad to be out of the “danger zone” as the chance of miscarriage decreases. I guess all through you’re pregnancy nothing is ever 100% safe, but reaching this milestone is an important one not only for this reason but also because fro a lot of people this is the first time you will get to see your little one!
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However with my second pregnancy I had an earlier scan as I had had some bleeding. We discovered from an ultrasound that I was intact carrying twins but sadly only 1 heartbeat could be detected on the ultrasound and also on an internal scan. So until 12 weeks I was definitely walking around on eggshells, hoping that I wouldn’t lose this baby and more than a little nervous about seeing that little heartbeat on the screen. After what feels like an eternity in the waiting room, they took us in to have a look. Luckily everything was fine and he was perfectly healthy, although it was mixed emotions for me, on one hand I was so relieved that my baby was ok but sadness for the one that we had lost, the moment that I saw him it felt more real, the ultrasound technician could of been saying anything at this point – I wouldn’t have a clue I was paying no attention at all – too mesmerised by what I was seeing.

They printed off my little pictures and we waited to be seen again. They measured my height – I was smaller than I thought (not good when your already vertically challenged!), weight asked hundreds of questions tested my wee and took blood for testing too, then we were free to go with our pictures to show everyone. .It was now official and we could start sharing the news!

Now all you have to do is decide how to announce it! Are you any good at baking? Announcements that you can eat sound good to me.

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Privacy In Pregnancy – Does It Exist?

Posted on January 20, 2012 by Emma

I mentioned this in an earlier blog post but i thought i’d expand a little, maybe I am a little oversensitive on this issue as I am a generally private person – or was before I started this blog but I felt a general lack of privacy during my pregnancies and too much negativity regarding my choices which were not always agreed with by others.

When you are pregnant or have a new baby peoples attitudes towards you seem to change they often seem little or no grasp of the concept that this is your pregnancy/baby and these are some helpful guidelines for the non pregnant people in your life: Privacy In Pregnancy

The appropriate response to a couple telling you they are having a baby is ‘Congratulations!’ with genuine enthusiasm. If this is not possible TRY HARDER – any other response can be quite upsetting.
Through the wonders of ~~science~~ common sense, we know that babies are made ONLY by the mum and dad (except in exceptional circumstances)– not grandparents, aunts, uncles or nice lady in the local shop. Unless the baby is in your uterus or you are the man that helped put it there, you may not ever use the phrase ‘my baby’ – you are not the one doing all the hard work.
Also, unless you made the baby as defined in the above point, the pregnancy, birth, and raising of the child are not about you. It is not your choice / decision to make. Although your input is appreciated and sometimes valued, you have no right to sulk when we do it our way!
The body of a pregnant woman should be treated the same as any other body. You would not randomly touch someone’s stomach if they were not pregnant,and I presume you would also not ask about the condition of their uterus, cervix, or how they plan to use (or not) their breasts. If we want to share this information we will. Leave us with some dignity intact please – we already have to be prodded and poked and examined enough!
Likewise, no woman wants to hear comments on her weight…ever. A pregnant woman does not find it flattering that you think she is about is pop (I heard this a lot), must be having twins (this one too and no I wasn’t), looks swollen or has gained weight anywhere else. Likewise I would imagine that telling her she looks too small would only make her worry that she is somehow starving her baby (nobody EVER said this too me). If you are having a fat day or not looking your best do you really want everyone pointing it out to you?
By the time we reach adulthood, most of us have picked up on the fact that the summer is hot. We are hot every summer – when it finally arrives – when we are not pregnant. We don’t need you to point out that we will be miserably hot before the baby comes as there is not much we can do about it now. Nor do we need to know how badly you will feel for us because we will be pregnant during the summer and how glad you are that YOU will not be pregnant this coming summer (Must remember to have a winter baby next time).
Childbirth is actually not a public event. And even though the extra cash could buy nice baby things – we will not be selling tickets! As crazy as it may sound, some women really do not relish the idea of a host of family members seeing them at there worst along with a view of their genitals. If you are wanted or need there you will be invited do not presume or sulk (yes mum I meant you). Some people think the birth of their child is a private and emotional moment to be shared only by the parents. You wasn’t around the baby was created (it’s private), don’t expect to be there when baby arrives (again private).
If you offer to help after the birth (thank you), this may mean helping around the house, help with cooking meals, shopping, school runs and generally stay out of the way. Holding the baby all the time and interfering with breastfeeding and sleeping schedules (we don’t want them to need to held to go to sleep as this will cause problems later on) is not really helping.
We know that you want to visit and get to know the new baby but don’t overstay your welcome, it’s our baby and we would like some ALONE time if it’s not too much to ask. And please please please no unexpected house calls – it is quite likely that we haven’t been sleeping and don’t welcome being woken up by the door bell.

Ok so maybe I do go a little over the top but I am sure that you will be faced with at least one of these situations. I am the master of evil looks and seem to nip it in the bud with a quick glance but I am sure you can find a nice way of letting people know that you want them to back off a little at the times when it gets a bit too much!

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Baby’s Due Date

Posted on January 18, 2012 by Emma

This whole due date thing is rather odd really, I mean not unless you are spot on with your cycle and or when you conceived its hard to tell exactly how many weeks you are and when you are due, it’s all guess work really. Doctors/ Midwives give you an estimated due date based on measurements of you baby and when you last period was, but babies can be different sizes right? and I don’t know about you but I’m not the most reliable date tracker!

They really should put more of an emphasis on the ESTIMATED part as this is rarely mentioned! I am sure that when your due date arrives, you will be more than ready to have your baby as I was! Most women deliver the baby somewhere between 37 and 42 weeks but if you go past 40 weeks (or so called 40 weeks) they start to tell you that you are late and therefore you may need a sweep or failing that need to be induced – the clock starts ticking faster!!

Only around only 5% of babies arrive on the exact due date (my daughter did) but when you’ve been waiting 40 weeks with a particular end date in mind, passing that date is not what you want or sometimes even expect. I’ll happily admit that when my due date came and went with no sign of my son I was a little upset and maybe even a little annoyed, I was desperate to meet him! This is not helped by people constantly saying ‘not long now’ from around 36 weeks and having has your hospital bag packed for so long that it’s starting to gather dust!!

Your baby will come when its ready – it’s as simple as that and although the 3 days that my son was late by may have been the longest days in the history of time (I swear it’s true), whats a few more days when you’ve got a lifetime together? Enjoy the sleep whilst you can whilst your baby is having a little last growth – you’ll miss your bump when it’s gone!

I suggest renaming the estimated due date to estimated due time period (or something similar) as it would be much more accurate.

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Baby Names

Posted on January 12, 2012 by Emma

Choosing a baby name can be harder than it sounds. With thousands of baby boys names and girls names to pick from is not only a tough decision but one that you have to get right. Choosing a baby’s name is an important step because they will have it for life. So you are really picking a baby / toddler / child / teenager / grown up / old person name which makes it even more difficult!

We all choose our baby names in different ways and for different reasons but the No. 1 thing we all have in common is that we want it to be different. I doubt many people would like their child to be 1 of 10 in a class with the same name.

When choosing a name for my daughter I had quite a few I liked and told people about them and everybody’s opinion on them was different, some people where just rude!! After all I was naming MY baby and they were the names that I liked! When choosing a name for my son my husband bought a baby name book which we went through and highlighted the names we liked and when people came to the house they would pick it up and have a look through pulling faces or making comments about the names we liked so we never discussed it with anyone and made sure that the book was out of sight in future. This was quite early on – before we had even discovered we were having a boy and when people would ask about what names we had chosen we just told them we hadn’t decided. We had a very tiny short list of 2/3 names and selected our preferred name on the day he was born, we announced his name at this time and there was no discussion with people trying to influence our decision! We got it right – his name is perfect and we love it! So maybe keeping mum about your short list might be a good idea!

Parents will take inspiration for names wherever they can find it, be it books, films, places… as long as the name is attractive, they’ll use it. I have even found myself reading the credits at the end of movies to look for names (does that make me weird?).

Here are a few tips that I found helpful when naming my children :

Search through baby books or on-line books and make a list of the names you like, include as many as you can. Then go back the next day and cross off the ones you don’t like as much. After about a week you should have your list narrowed down to a few choices.
You need to choose a name that goes with your last name. Also consider the initials your child will have. If the initials form a word or having a meaning then choose a different name .
Unique / wacky spellings can make it difficult when your child is constantly spelling or having their name mispronounced. Although saying that my sons name is not spelt the ‘conventional’ way, we chose the celtic version which we though was better, as it is nicer and is now spelt the way it is spoken making it easier for him to write now that he is learning! (take that you doubters!!)
Consider your other children’s names. Choose a name that sounds good when said with the others. (Do you really want a Billy, Milly & Lilly?)
You might want to choose a few names then wait until you see your baby before deciding which name fits best. My daughter was being named Hannah until she was born then I changed my mind the minute I saw her. Keep an open mind as your chosen name might not suit your baby.
I said it and I’ll say it again – before choosing a name remember that your child will have it for the rest of their life. If you wouldn’t want the name your child probably won’t either. Don’t choose a name just because it’s popular or you think it sounds cute. Remember your child will one day be an adult. Princess might sound cute for a little girl but not so good for a high powered executive or a lawyer.

But above all else just choose the names that YOU want, not everyone will agree with your choice but it’s not their decision to make. You wouldn’t expect to name somebody else’s baby would you? So don’t let them choose yours.

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Where’s My Glow?

Posted on January 6, 2012 by Emma

Glow If like me now that you’re pregnant you’re wondering where’s that expectant glow you’ve heard so much about? Shouldn’t you be looking radiant right now?

This is the one time in your life when you can are supposed to be able to confidently flaunt your womanly curves and enjoy thick glossy hair, long, strong nails and luminous skin – isn’t it? Well that’s what we’re lead to believe, but in reality, nausea, lack of sleep, not enough energy to run a brush through my hair some mornings (thankfully I have long hair and this could be disguised!) and skin changes left some me wondering if I would ever start ‘blooming’.

The pregnancy glow is not just a saying it’s scientific fact! (and yes I do like to be scientific!) . Your skin retains more moisture during pregnancy, which plumps it up, smoothing out any fine lines and wrinkles that you might have. The pinkish glow that makes you look radiant is due to increased levels of blood circulating round your body.

However this does not have the same effect on everyone! With my first pregnancy I got spots – not millions but too many for my liking! This is due to the higher levels of hormones blah blah blah….but I wanted my glow not spots!! Luckily I didn’t seem to have this with my second pregnancy but am not convinced I was ‘glowing’. In fact the glow may have just been due to the fact that I was often pink faced and sweaty due to being heavily pregnant in the height of summer working in a room with no air con!! I certainly did not feel a glow – I felt hideous at times!!!

Skin tends to become more sensitive during pregnancy, not only due to higher hormone levels, but because it has become more stretched and delicate. I have since developed mild eczema on my hands and am lead to believe that this will worsen when I get pregnant again but so long as I get my ‘glow’ I won’t mind – surely I’m due one? Third time lucky right?

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20 Week Scan – Boy or Girl?

Pregnancy Facts & Figures

Pregnancy Worries

Why Do We Put So Much Pressure On Each Other?

12 Weeks Pregnant – Ultrasound.

Privacy In Pregnancy – Does It Exist?

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