Dealing With Miscarriage

Miscarriages aren’t really something you talk about. It’s kinda a taboo subject. Strange really as Miscarriages are much more common than most people realise. Around 1 in 5 pregnancies end in early miscarriage (thats not even counting the really early ones before a +ve HPT). When you finally find out that your pregnant, the baby becomes a part of you almost instantly, and to have all that joy taken away and replaced by grief is something nobody wants or even expects to go through.

With my most recent miscarriage (my 3rd) I was first in denial, trying to tell myself that it was implantation, some people still have periods when pregnant…etc…until the crippling pain took over and there was no denying that I was miscarrying again. Then I just went into auto pilot, it all took place in some kind of blur, I called the Dr and explained she made me a hospital appointment at the EPU, I went I was tested and scanned, my baby was gone. They spouted there miscarriage statistics at me gave me a leaflet (which was an improvement on last time) and I went home.

I got home and read my leaflet – yes a leaflet -and that was my entire aftercare package. I was not offered the opportunity to speak to anyone, not that I cared at the time. I was in shock, even though I knew I had miscarried even before I got to the appointment.

What I don’t understand is why there isn’t any special department or clinic that deals with women who have miscarried. I have many questions – and no one was there to answer them.

Maybe a follow up appointment with a Dr, a couple of weeks later, to give you time to adjust and get your thoughts together. Like most ladies who miscarry, I wanted to find a reason why, but I guess I’ll never know.

Over time I have come to terms with our losses and although it’s been a very sad time, there must have been a reason why the pregnancy wasn’t to be. We have to look to the future – and that’s another area where aftercare would have helped.

Tags: Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss

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